Caution: Please don't read before completing the book, as the questions contain spoilers!

1. Autumn is the season when the Amish get married (after the harvest). Hannah experiences mixed emotions as she contemplates another fall without being engaged and planning to wed. She doesn't envy others for their marriages and children, but she wishes God would show her "the man He set aside for her" so she can share her love, be married, and have children of her own. Did you have to wait longer than you wanted (like Hannah) to meet "the man God set aside for you"—or are you still waiting?
2. Hannah and Chris are opposites in many ways, but they share some similarities. What are they?
3. Chris feels let down by his friends and fellow soldiers when he feels he must "do the right thing." Have you ever gone "against the tide" and done the right thing only to have others disagree with you—even shun you?
4. Just when Chris's tour of duty was nearly done, he sustained severe injuries. Now, in spite of not being a vain man, he wonders if anyone will ever want him. Have you ever experienced self-esteem issues? How did you deal with them?
5. Many people travel to Amish communities to absorb the sense of peace and order they feel there. Chris does this and hopes to talk to Jenny about how she has overcome many obstacles. What place gives you a sense of peace and order?
6. Many people admire the simplicity, the connectedness, and the spirituality of the Amish lifestyle. How can you achieve this in your life?
7. Hannah moves in with Phoebe, an older woman who is a longtime friend and has become family to her not just by marriage but also by friendship. Do you have friends who are like family to you? How did they become like family?
8. After her brother's first wife died, Hannah moved in with him to take care of her nieces and nephew. Once he remarries she's not needed in that capacity anymore. Have you been the family caretaker or a parent who has experienced the "empty nest syndrome"? How did you feel when you were no longer needed in this capacity?
9. The title for the book comes from Ecclesiastes 3:1: "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die. . . ."). Hannah chafes at time passing and she feels she may become an old maid. What or who have you wanted but still don't have?
10. A man hates Chris and pursues him to Paradise. Have you ever had an enemy? Why did this person dislike or hate you? How did you react to this?
11. The Amish practice forgiveness, believing that only by forgiving others can God forgive them for anything they do. Hannah decides to forgive a man who has seriously hurt her. Do you think you could do the same thing? Why or why not?
12. Healing isn't just a physical state. It's also an emotional one. Describe a time when you were feeling challenged or you were searching for something. How did you deal with it?